Slate, Pen And Ink

Slate, Pen And Ink

By Abdulrazaq Hamzat

“the man (qalam) and woman (ink) must agree to collaborate, with equinimity, without angst and tripidation”

A successful family will emerge from the harmony of 3 things, namely the slate, pen and the ink.

The earth surface (dunya) is the slate of life that should be written upon for others to read and see your prove of life, through which your exact version or perception of life can continue to exist.

The man is a pen (qalam) that writes on the slate of life and through which the ink flow, but the woman, is the ink (tada), through which the words forms and are imprinted on the earth surface.

To write your impactful story on the surface of the earth successfully, the man (qalam) and woman (ink) must agree to collaborate, with equinimity, without angst and tripidation.

Any ripple between the ink (tada) and the pen (qalam) affects what the slate (dunya) is able to visualize and display, but most importantly, it disrupts men and women’s ability to rightly present their version of creation.

Men (pen) and women (ink) are not the same, each has specialized purpose, they are not alike.

While both can live independent of each other and exist, none of them can truly function and create a living on the slate of life without surrendering themselves to each other.

Total service to the other is the only place of fulfilment for both parties.

Once we agree to be united in love through marriage, we must surrender to each other completely, without any reservation, fear or other misguided considerations.

This is the best for both parties and the only way to fulfilment.

Skeptism, asking too many unnecessary questions, which hinders free flow of emotional commitment injures, not enhances the family union.

The ink never argues, suspect or questions the pen in their journey of life, and quest to imprint their mark on earth surface, hence their beautiful creation. The ink never argues, it never argues.

However, while everybody says that the pen wrote, wise people understood that the ink is the writer of what the pen wrote, yet the pen is the writer of what the ink wrote.

Women, the ink of life (tada) are born with innate power.

A form of magic.

But that magic can only work best under the guidance of the man, who is the pen (qalam) of life.

This is why women are encouraged to preserve their magical ink for a man, who is responsible and committed to the ideal of leadership, not allow multiple individuals deplete their magic.

For anytime a woman gives a man access to herself, she gives away a part of her magic that she can never regain, unless the man so wishes to repay, through observing his own part of the responsibility.

The more women a man have access to, the more magical power he can acquire and the more men that have access to a woman, the more she depletes her magic.

That’s why the most powerful men have access to endless women. And the least magical women have given themselves to endless men, depleting their magical reserves and tearing themselves apart into multiple purposeless directions.

Although, some men have been self destruct from their excesses and inability to manage their folly.

After all, just as men can acquire magic from women, so can the magic destroy them, if not handled with care.

A woman that has only one man with access to her magic, has limited vulnerability in life, and more stability, both physical, emotional and psychological.

Unfortunately, a woman who allows her magic to be depleted by multiple men is usually frustrated, empty and directionless.

She’s often tossed around psychologically by different forces of nature, which has considerable hold on her, without her knowledge.

To conclude, I would say that, love and by extension, marriage, is giving someone the licence to destroy you, but trusting them not to.

Sometimes, the person you choose may destroy you and other times, they may choose not to, but know that, the decision is never in your hand and there’s nothing you can do about it.

As an individual, yours is to choose someone you will give the licence and manual of your destruction.

While you will trust them not to destroy you, but instead utilize you for a joint purpose of excellence.

I would rather ask you to choose someone, that even if they choose to destroy you, you will trust them enough to do so with the best of intention and you are gladly destroyed with joy in your heart and excitement in your face, despite the seeming pain, knowing that you did the right thing and choose the right person.

And if you are lucky enough to choose someone that would not destroy you, both of you can enjoy life until nature takes it course.

Abdulrazaq Hamzat writes from Nigeria and can be reached at [email protected]